Oct 29, 2020

TINY FARMHOUSE SLEEPING PORCH REVEAL

Today I will be sharing photos of my never before seen sleeping porch, along with some ramblings about my life. Y'all know I ramble. I don't own a cell phone and today is the first day I have plugged in my computer in weeks. This post is a way to let folks and family know I am still alive over here in the mountains and all is well. If you are trying to call me..sorry- home phone currently is on "off" mode. I will resurface again at a later date.
 
                                                      
My only real pumpkin - I prefer the faux ones as to not replace them each year


Amazingly beautiful warm weather and pleasant gentle breezes are currently undressing the trees in the woods and on the mountains that surround my tiny farmhouse. This is my least favorite season of the year because it leaves me seriously missing my favorite summer season and many 'never hot enough' but still beautiful bright blue sky summer days. Having lived in CA for 38 years and then WA state for many more years and Alaska for three years, I would not trade one day here in the Appalachian mountains for a day back on the West coast or Alaska. However,  I would  pick Alaska over the previous states I lived in before NC.  It's been over five years since I planted roots here in Western NC and I have not one regret. It is not the place for everyone, but for me, it is perfect. I love it here for now.
 
                                                                
My farm charm cottage covered porch


 
Open shelving invites easy seasonal changes

 
Years ago I used to yearn for a covered porch and while shopping online only for my farmhouse it was on my list of "must haves". Praise God, HE he gave me the desires of my heart. Currently, I am enjoying the solitude of my covered sleeping porch, be it in the day or the night hours of the best Fall ever. I am an introvert and a happy and content loner, so I am making the most of the beautiful, sunny, warm Fall weather and hiding out for my much needed days in solitude. I am thoroughly enjoying these warm lazy days alone (except for my fur children) on my sleeping porch, while sipping fresh mulled hot apple cider or Turmeric tea, and enjoying good eats and reads. 
 
                           
My covered porch and uncovered deck and patio area


 
All through the summer months I have had a slew of friends, neighbors and acquaintances stop in to visit and often share a meal or drinks. It is just a Southern Hospitality kind of thing to do (chat and visit and entertain) and I am trying hard to get used to it and be better at it. It is not always easy to share my time or home with others as I prefer to be alone for the most part. But, I know God has something to say about this all, so... well - I try to listen and open my home and share time with others, even when it's not my first choice or always easy for me to do. I do thank God for the nice folks I have met here in the mountains and a few of them are near and dear to my heart, and they understand my need for down or alone time. To them, I say Thank You for understanding.
            
 
 
      Cottage garden and cafe is the vibe here. Vintage coffee pot & tea cups hold faux succulents

 
 I have  never in my life experienced feeling lonely and as every true introvert knows, spending time with folks tends to be for the most part, very draining as opposed to energizing. It's been a super busy 'get together with friends' kind of year and I am utterly exhausted and am finally taking time again for myself to honor my deep needs and desire for silence, peace, time alone and much desired privacy. This porch quite often serves as a place to hide out.
 
 

 
Great spot to relax

 
 
Garden tools are hidden in a vintage tater bin

 
 I have in the past shared many photos of my privacy fence that surrounds my deck. I had vintage wavy glass windows installed in the fence just to confuse the builder. Not really, just because I like to add a new spin here and there in my home and yard decor. Patio furniture and an umbrella table offers seating options on the uncovered deck and a comfy chalk painted chair and Ikea daybed offer covered seating.



        All weather wicker furniture found on Craigslist for $20.00 creates a cozy patio vibe


My vintage farmhouse porch used to be a wrap around porch. I had it partitioned off to form two separate porches instead. It just works out better that way for my dogs and my desire to have a separate porch where the dogs don't fill my daybed with their hair. As it is, I pass out lint  k9/hair rollers to guests like party favors.

Former yellow truck painted white and left outside to rust


 
Being that an outside mattress would get moldy, stinky and attract mice on a porch, I choose to use an air mattress on the daybed. I dab or spray peppermint essential oil on the comforter to repel mice and it works really well. Y'all know I love to decorate so this wrought iron shelf works great for me to switch things out as the whim strikes me. I use lots vintage saucers and cups on the shelves and around my patio and on the fence to add pops of color. I purchased pillow covers to change out the accent pillows with the seasons. The covers don't take up much space which is super important in tiny or small homes. I store them under the daybed inside plastic bags and totes.
 
 


Vintage teacup holds faux succulent from the dollar store



Reading nook on the covered porch.



Vintage chicken feeder filled with faux succulents





Faux mini pumpkins and faux succulents are a great easy care choice


 
All faux- perfect for my lifestyle

 
 

 
LOVE MY PRESIDENT


 
 
 
  • I hope each and every reader is making time to enjoy natures Fall gifts this season. Please remember it is never to late to have a happy childhood. Make time to play.


                                 Tonita                               

                                                            


                      

Jun 28, 2020

CROWNS IN THE COTTAGE


Have you ever wondered why you are drawn to certain colors, home goods or decorating styles? What inspired you to start collecting a certain item? Was it a childhood memory, a special person or?  What feeling do those things evoke deep inside you?

 I  gravitate towards items that remind me of years gone by. What about you? I use colors, art and items that create an invitation to a feeling of  calm. I mix in odd or quirky things that make me smile. I don't care about current home trends or the paint color of the year. They are just selling paint and promoting consumerism that fades away with each new trend. I especially like to use things in my farmhouse cottage that make my heart sing and / or remind me of biblical truths.


 My home is by no means a fashion statement but it is a perfectly imperfect sweet spot where I dwell on this earth for time being. I am grateful and blessed yet  just like one of my favorite songs proclaims - All I know is, I'm not home yet and this is not where I belong. If you want to know what I mean by that statement listen to this short song video clip below.




 In the meantime.....
 
 I'm drawn to many forms, sizes and textures of certain items in particular. Some of the smaller home  decor items that capture my attention can be seen throughout my little cottage. My mini collections include hearts, vintage keys, sheep, pigs, bunnies, birds, nests and crowns. Tea cups, old quilts and galvanized watering cans can be found on my covered porches. This post will zero in (at some point) on crowns.


 I also have a thing for old chippy painted doors and windows, for well over three decades. I collected them long before they were a desirable 'must have' in today farmhouse style. I love that my old farmhouse still has most of the original wavy glass panes still intact. Let my eyes spot old fret work, or vintage porch columns, and I swoon over such treasures. Cast iron sinks, rusty items that tell a story..Yes please. You can probably tell that I would much rather spend a day at a salvage yard than take an all expense paid shopping trip to a mall. That says it all. 


Living in a tiny 570' farmhouse has helped me to walk away from some amazing deals, and curb my appetite to posses more things. I have a 'one item in, five items out' rule for myself. At this season in life I'm satisfied with all that I'm in charge over. I need nothing more. I am looking at things differently these days and I am tired of the make it, break it, buy it, use it, toss it circle of consumerism, of which I have been partaking of for way to long. Maybe this is a phase and maybe not? I have zero desire, nor a plan to become a minimalist, I've just reached a point where I no longer desire to purchase nor posses any more STUFF.


That all being expressed (cause ya all know I need to do that).... I will move forward with sharing some photos found online as well as some of the crowns that pop up here and there and there and there and there...in my little farmhouse. One of the reasons I like crowns is because they remind me of just
 who I am. Especially on those days where the enemy works hard to try and make me forget just who I am. I hope these photos will encourage you to remember who's you are if you are a believer in JESUS.


 I AM A CHILD OF THE KING OF KING'S & LORD of LORD'S.
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SO IMPORTANT TO REMEMBER
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AMEN & AMEN - I LOVE AFFIRMATIONS LIKE THIS ONE BELOW
Better than clothes and makeup is being in His presence. His beauty rubs off on your heart. :))
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What is the symbolic meaning of a crown?
A crown is a traditional symbolic form of head adornment worn by a monarch or by a deity (as distinct from a hat), for whom the crown traditionally represents power, legitimacy, victory, triumph, honor, and glory, as well as immortality, righteousness, and resurrection.



CROWNS IN MY COTTAGE



Okay, so play along with me. As a child.... did any of you gals take flower petals and make slippers for your Barbie dolls? I did, I used fuchsia's and I made them sweet crowns out of flower petals buds and leaves. I embrace and honor my inner child to this day as I make tiny crowns and place them on faux farmhouse critters. This is where my sense of whimsy comes into play.


                                          Paper napkins with a sheep in a garden made crown



Looking out my kitchen window past a birdie with a crown


  Kitchen towel- No pigs in a blanket at my house



French statuary complete with a crown


Shiny crown on a little rusty bird, all dressed up and no place to fly


Crowned bird is resting on the front room window


Sleepy princess



Bunny in a glittered crown


Crowned birdie



All I know is I'm not home yet... no suitcase needed



Crowned buck on a front room pillow


Crowned brown cow - say that ten x in a row




A crown and cross hang from my vintage headboard




Crowned bird watches over me as I sleep



Shabby chic crowned critter sits next to my tub




BLESSINGS
YOU ARE PRECIOUS IN HIS SIGHT.


As always please remember that it is never to late to have a happy childhood. If you missed one the first time around then create one for yourself this very day. I took a break between uploading photos for this blog post. I took one of my dogs for a walk and went to a park. I took off my shoes and walked through the sand and got on a swing and had a ball. I came home and googled "princess on a swing" and found this photo below. I love it, even though I have no idea what is going on in the lower half of it? She looks to be wearing a crown?



IT IS NEVER TO LATE TO CREATE A HAPPY CHILDHOOD
XO, Tonita

Lol... even if it goes terribly wrong.



May 20, 2020

SPRING CLEANING BETWEEN MY EARS

Finally Spring is here, well maybe? It's trying to show up here and there and maybe everywhere? I feel confused and have heard that even the little birds seem confused about the season were currently in. Can we just move right into summer please? That would be fine for me as I am yearning for full on sunny warm, no- I mean HOT days. This past winter was a very long, cold and rainy season here in the beautiful Appalachian mountains, sigh. BIG sigh.

Beautiful Purple Iris came with my Farm Charm Cottage, I added the birdhouse



For many, this is a time of year to get on with new projects and clear out clutter, organize and perhaps spit shine our homes. Yeah, right- who am I kidding?  More importantly than all the attention that my little cottage could benefit from is the emotional closet or corner where I have let things pile up for days, weeks, okay...* I will tell the truth here and shame the devil*.... months or even years?  Yeah, I said it- 'years'. Spring cleaning of those emotional messes can create benefits for both our home as well as our emotions. IMO- cleaning out the inner self and letting go of things that don't serve me today is even more important .You know - the parts of you one doesn't ever read about on the blog, or the YOUtube videos, or on your InstaHAM account or the posts shared on Flitter or even on your posts on Spacebook. Cleaning your emotional state between your ears as well as all the negative self chatter will give you opportunity to grow into a happier you. Now is just as good a time as any to open that door and face the mess. Taking stock of what’s working and what’s not will help you move forward with an emotional Spring cleaning.

Lavender Rose of Sharon grows wild in my yard


 Consider this post an invitation to join me in sorting through a painful or messy feeling or memory as part of an emotional spring cleaning. Now is just as good a time as any to open that door and face those inner messes. If you don't have any inner mess to consider, then just skip this post, and enjoy the flower photos and well... be blessed and thanks for visiting here. Back to cleaning those inner messes we often hide in the back corners of our emotional closets so no one will find them. What is in there anyway?  Perhaps some negative emotions, attitudes and residue of left over dirt from unhealed toxic relationships or family of origin experiences? Or maybe just little things that hold us back in our lives from being our best selves, can pile up in our an emotional closets,  just as they do in our homes. Those emotional stacks that we avoid or are ashamed of because we want others to approve of us. You know, those hidden places that we allow few if any others to see let alone enter. That 'catch all nook or space where we store things that we don't know what to do with at the moment.


I am by no means a gardener, so I'm so happy this Lilly lived after I planted it.


Along with the emotional benefits of a physical spring cleaning, be aware of the benefits of spring cleaning your emotions. Getting your physical environment and your inner emotional environment clean and fresh will give you space to grow into a healthier, more productive, and happier you




      Tips for an emotional Spring Cleaning.

Taking stock of what’s working and what’s not will help you move forward if you care to participate in an emotional Spring cleaning. Past upsets that manifest in anger, jealousy, hatred, sadness and more all can end up being stuffed inside our mental closets or basements when we don't face and deal with them. They won't go away any faster than any other mess if  not  purposely sorted and sifted through. Not fun but necessary in order to have a clean house and to be emotionally healthier which leads to feeling better both emotionally and physically. Dis-ease (Disease) is ill-health and is often connected to unresolved issues birthed in toxic life experiences that manifest in the body.

Take notice of what is dragging you down. I find that keeping a journal is a good way to help bring these things to light as well as sort out and get present to feelings. Pay attention to negative thoughts and emotions and especially negative self talk that takes up brain space. You know- those things we nurse and rehearse, those things that could be cleaned out and replaced with positive fulfilling thoughts. Go through that emotional closet.  IF you don't love it and it doesn't serve you, dump it. Imagine one of those hoarding shows where a dumpster is placed in front of your home to get rid of everything that doesn't serve you well. DUMP IT.

 Toxic relationships current or from the past need to be trashed if you find any left over residue taking up space in your life.

 Emotions such as self criticism, guilt and shame are all USELESS and should be thrown out. When negative self talk, or stinking thinking messages try to creep back into your emotional space from anyone or any direction - remember you can consciously choose to throw them out and give no place to them in your life. It is a choice. Chose to honor yourself.

 Sort through and recognize  unrealistic expectations you place on yourself. Those go into the dumpster also. No use donating them to local thrift shops. They are of no benefit to anyone. They are worthless.


.Holding grudges?- purpose to let them go as they only hold you as a slave to them, living in bondage. Toss out pessimism, by speaking or writing out a new possibility to replace those negative memories, lies or pessimistic made up self talk.
 

 When you do this type of cleaning it will consist of you experiencing some new feelings. Some might surprise you. Let yourself feel them fully and take time to honor yourself at this time. Be aware of your feelings and don't minimize them Write in private or public, scream, yell, cry and know it is a process. This may take more than the Spring season and in some cases years to accomplish. SO WORTH IT. You do not have to remain stuck in the feelings. IT is just a choice.

Consider sorting through messy feelings part of your emotional spring cleaning. During this type of cleaning I get through it with prayer. Not all things can just easily be thrown out as we wish them to be, but God can heal our hearts and work forgiveness through us and turn ashes into beauty if only we invite that of Him. HE cares about your heart, and every situation in your life. Involve HIM.


Closeup of my Lavender Rose of Sharon



On a different  note - For way to many years I stayed over scheduled and busy in my professional life as well as my personal life. I see this same trait in people every single day. It is if out culture rewards the busiest people. Like the one with the most stuff to do in a day wins. NOT. What I learned about myself is that part of me staying busy every waking second helped me mask my pain and avoid my inner personal growth work. I just placed no value in being still. I was afraid not to have a plan, For when I was still my thoughts drifted to the messy areas in my personal life. Those areas went untouched and they felt dirty so I kept busy to avoid looking at and dealing with them.  I didn't know how to relax or quiet my busy mind.

I used to be the perfect Co-Dependent. Before a lot of self discovery, self help and recovery type of personal healing work I was a much bigger hot mess.  In the past, not without great cost to me. I over scheduled,and over extended my life and gave so much of me away that I lost a huge part of me and ended up that I eventually did not recognize whom I had become. I was angry and sad. One day while watching Joyce Meyer ministries It changed my life in this area. She explained that she had the same "Yes" syndrome as I once did and she said that instead of being an automatic
"yes", when presented with an invitations, requests and offers or, a call to help or a response to those who need you say this instead -
"Let me pray about it and I will get back to you"  I can not express how this simple change in my life and way of responding to requests of help and requests for much to much of my time freed me up to give me time to pray and seek God and then respond, instead of being an automatic "yes" to all those around me who requested anything they needed of me.  No more living in regret of over scheduling, over extending and helping out of guilt and later regret .I now take time to seek God first and make better choices that I feel at peace with.


When I was a child my mother was a neat freak, and kept what I consider to be a perfect house. Everything was sparkling clean, dust and spot free, ironed, everything at all times in its place and perfect looking both on the inside and out. Yet, there was complete chaos in our home behind closed doors. I think my mothers efforts to keep an immaculate home and be a great cook and baker on days she was not drinking was her way to not deal with her pain which she tried to kill with alcohol abuse and years of binge drinking. Later when I was twenty- one years old her many years of alcohol abuse killed her and the house was not so pretend perfect anymore.


Years later, many years later I find that doing home cleaning on the inside of me is much more important than what one's house looks like.  Don't get me wrong.. I love a clean home, but a clean home does not define me. It seems in vogue these days to "be busy" all the time. To have a never ending flow of projects lined up to tackle.

Since moving to the mountains I have settled into myself more than at any other time in my life. I have learned to be a human being instead of a human doing. My life has slowed down to a ridiculous pace, compared to days of past when my life was similar to a hamster on crack running on a wheel for 16 plus hours a day non stop day in, day out. Life is better these days, even when I sit on my porch and sip Kombucha and try to talk myself into embracing the gray hair that is growing in faster than I can pluck  out.  But- in a good way life is different. As a home owner there is always upkeep and work to do both on the property as well as the interior of my Farm Charm Cottage. I suspect there will always be inner work to do also. It doesn't always get me excited but I love the end results.
 

         My flower garden needs serious help. I did not inherit any gardening genes or skills. Thank goodness I don't depend on my gardening skills as a food source. I am going to continue to work on it and see if I can get better results in coming weeks or months. Just like personal growth work, a garden takes an investment of time, weed pulling, hard work, patience and love. Then one day you realize all the dirt you sifted and weeds you cleared away and the areas you fertilized produced flowers and  finally made way for something healthy and beautiful.


May you be blessed in clearing those weeds of negativity that pop up here and there in one's life. Take off your shoes and walk barefoot in the dirt and grass. It is never to late to create a happy childhood. Go play.

Blessings,
Tonita









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